1,300 new stepfamilies are forming every day in the U.S. That’s about 40,000 new stepfamilies a month! Let that sink in for a minute…
Stepmoms… stepdads… even stepbrothers and stepsisters… that’s a lot of change for everyone involved. Change that some will embrace almost immediately, and change that many will take a lot of time to adjust to and eventually “accept”.
Stepfamilies can be beautiful and effortless… or they can be downright unbearable! While some parents tend to let their emotions get the better of them (don’t be that parent), it’s so much more rewarding to embrace it and be the bigger person. Your children will thank you later. And if that isn’t enough, your sanity will!
I know, I know… it can be exhausting at times (trust me, I’ve had my share) BUT, when your children see that you’re able to get along with and even be in the same room with their mommy or daddy, at the end of the day, that’s all that really matters. Isn’t it?
Whatever differences you may have with your child’s mom or dad, or stepmom or stepdad, let it go. Emotions are temporary. Don’t build a house and stay there. Some of you know exactly what I’m talking about. You not only built a house… you built a whole damn neighborhood and threw away the key!
Sure, it’s easy to be petty. To judge quickly, and have the last laugh. But at some point, that will fade. Years will go by, and relationships that you could’ve been forming, have slipped away from you.
So, invite the steps over for dinner… for coffee… for a game of UNO… for a weekend trip together (okay, that last one is quite ridiculous! Don’t do that.)
Get to know one another. After all, when you’re not raising your children, they are. And even if you’re convinced you are that Mom of the Year, give the other parent a little credit. They may not be the best at their title or deserve a trophy, but as long as they’re trying, shouldn’t that count for something?
Embrace your family. Love your family. Stepparents, stepchildren, and all!